Last week we met my son’s new pediatrician. We liked our old pediatrician but we had to switch for the fourth time. My son is 5 and has had 4 different doctors in his little life. I only had 1 Pediatrician growing up so I find this crazy and annoying. This is why…
April 2014 Newborn
I hate switching doctors. Like I said this is the 4th doctor in 5 years. Our first doctor was a female doctor, Dr. R. I brought my newborn of 4 days old to her and she seemed very knowledgeable. The only occurrence that stuck with me is that I simply asked her about breastfeeding and she replied, “woah, he’s only 4 days old don6t try and put him on a schedule yet.” The funny was that she didn’t even let me finish my question. I simply wanted know how long he should be feeding and how often. Duh, he’s only 4 days old lady. Anyways, I figured out the breastfeeding thing on my own and at 2 week check’up my baby boy was back up to his birthweight and beyond. She congratulated me for my efforts which I appreciated. One thing I liked about this practice is that they had a lactation consultant. We would see this lady again in a few years and then I would find out why that feeling in my gut about her was there. Mama’s intuition was right on point.
Our Favorite Doctor!
On to our second doctor which is Dr. A. after our 1 month check up with Dr. R, I thought she was okay, but my in-law family told me about Dr. A and how he was amazing. He was through. He cared very much. He was extremely smart and skilled, ton of years of experience. Around 5 weeks or so my son developed these flakes on his head and these patches or spot on his forehead. Was this measles or chicken pox i was freaking out. I told my boyfriend auntie and she suggested I make an appointment with Dr. A. I called the office and got an appointment quickly. The flakes on his scalp for cradle rash. I honestly forgot the name of the rash that Xavier was diagnosed with. He prescribed a cream and told me that many times this rash can last up till 18 months in the child. Thankfully the rash subsided within a few weeks. After the first visit with Dr. A. I was very happy to switch. He was very smart and loved his job. He was very considerate. He also made me feel very proud as a mother by constantly telling me how great the baby looked. “You’re doing a real good job with him.” That meant alot being a mom at 21. I didn’t have my mom to guide me I was just relying on mother’s instinct and Google for the tips.
He went on to be my son’s pedistricatian until he was 2 years old. He decide to move his practice to a new county and it was an hour away from our town. I was very sad because I never had an issue at my appointments. He called me with blood test results right away because Xavier was anemic at 1 year old and his level was right back up. He called me to break the news about the moving.
Mama’s Childhood Pediatrician
Now I had to find a new pediatrician. I decided to check out my childhood pediatrician. He was very nice and extremely intelligent. He was also the doctor that was with us during the years of my moms sickness and death. My dad took me and my sister to see him after her death the next day. It was really to talk about it but he offered a warm hug which I still remember this years later. In the years that I had been a patient I saw his practice grow and expand. He now had 2 offices instead of 1. Him and the other Md, that I remember as a child. were still practicing. They added a physician assistant and a nurse practitioner to the clinic. I called and got an appointment at the new office. Just as I remembered him as a child he was the same Dr. P. Now my son was older and wasn’t going to the doctor regularly. This was the pediatrician we were seeing when my son had these 2 febrile seizures. At the end of August we were sent a letter notifying us that our insurance plan was being dropped.
Back to Dr. R
Now again we and to look for a new pediatrician. I decided to go back to our very first doctor, Dr. R. I got an appoint for his 3-year physical. I was very anxious because my son was very stranger-danger and a mood-swinging tot! Much to my worries and anxiety the whole appointment was a disaster! I remember trying to get him to sit still but he wasn’t having any of it. The doctor tried as well but only for a few minutes before getting quite upset with my 3-year old. I remember seeing him and cry and completely afraid of her. I had tears in my eyes from seeing my son act this was but more importantly seeing the provider be so aggressive my him. After he saw her anger his senses kicked in at decided to pay attention and listen to her ever word. While this appointment left me quite traumatized we returned in 2 weeks for a re-check and the appointment went very well because the torment was still fresh in his mind. I didn’t return for his 3-month check-up. The only time I ever saw a provider act this way towards a child was my boss, a surgeon in 2016. His patient, the older brother was coming in to get his cast. At the check-out window, his little brother began getting fussy they were at our clinic for 2 hours. I sympathized with the mom. Then the doctor comes storming out of the office and begins yelling at the mom to give the baby a bottle or make his hush! The mother was in shock! I was in disgust and horrified! This event is a huge reason why I called quite in that place after 11 months of employment.
Afterward I decided to change our insurance completely so we could return with Dr. P. Even when my son was a challenge, he never let frustration get to him. He understood kids. I later found out that the Dr. R. had very unpleasant reviews. Some records indicated that she was a different type of doctor before switching to pediatrics. I was very hard on myself for not trusting my gut and returning to that provider. It was ver unprofessional. Now were back to the present time. We had Dr. P. We brought our baby girl to their practice too. Everything was going smoothly for 2 years until this past April that we were notified that our insurance dropped his office. When will it end?
We met my son’s new provider Dr. V. She has lots of years of experience and 5 starts on reviews. My first impression was that she was very nice and welcoming. However, during the visit she kind of talked down towards me, maybe she saw that I looked quite young? They checked his ears because he was complaining of pain. She first told me that I should never clean his ears. In the 5 years he’s been alive and 4 providers he has seen I never heard of this. Anyways, his left ear was clogged with wax that we will return to the office to get flushed out. I did this procedure when I worked in primary care and my son is going to hate it. Anyways, I felt like she thought I was clueless, kept saying to do this at home treatment to the left ear not the right. “Which hand does he write with?” “The right one.” “Okay, remember it’s the other one.” 😑 Let’s just say she made me uncomfortable and I’m not looking forward to going in on Monday but as long as she can keep my boy healthy whatever with me. We’ll see how far we get with this one. Another thing that wasn’t too great of the practice that its pretty dull looking. My own son asked the Medical Assistant if it’s an old doctor. He meant, is this a doctor for grown-ups? 😅
But we shall see how this goes. It’s a headache but hopefully by the end of May I can register my kid to start kindergarten. We need that physical!
Thanks for reading 😂💜